Welcome to our podcast.
We talk dating.
Queer dating.

Decoded - one hot mess at a time.

Dating is complicated. Especially when you're queer, emotionally self-aware, and trying not to fall for someone just because they use punctuation correctly.

That’s where Dateable AF comes in — the podcast for women who date women and want to make dating less brutal (and a lot more fun). Hosted by longtime friends Sarah and Rachel, we talk about U-Hauls, ghosting, soft-launches, and all the messy stuff no one really explains — with humor, honesty, and zero judgment.

→ Listen on Apple Podcasts
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Want to get clear on your own dating patterns while you’re at it?
Take our free Dateability Assessment and find out what’s working — and what might be holding you back.

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Want to be part of our future community?

We know women are craving better ways to meet other high-quality women—we are too. That’s why we’re building a community just for you. But we don’t want to guess what you need—we want to hear it straight from you.Tell us what kind of scene would feel valuable, supportive, and real. Share your thoughts, and you’ll be first in line when we open the doors.

Click here to send us your ideas—we’re listening.  
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What women are saying...

The dateable()af Podcast is so smart and funny! I've already learned a lot and I can't wait for the next episodes to come out. Our community has been needing something like the dateable()af Podcast for a long time! Rachel and Sarah are perfect for this role.

J.C.

Single lesbian, age 46

I love the whole concept of “dateable()af,” but I am especially impressed with the “dateability” assessment Dr. Kyle created. It’s a comprehensive tool to evaluate an individual’s overall health and well-being, efficiently zeroing in on areas that may be holding someone back from the successful relationship they desire. Her model is going to save people a tremendous amount of time, money and general anguish when it comes to dating.

J. Bosarge

Ph.D. Clinical Psychologist

I’ve been very successful in every area of my life except romantic relationships. It's so hard to find quality women, and the apps just aren't getting it right. I love what dateable()af is envisioning for our community and I can't wait to see where it goes! The Dateability Assessment is such a great tool and I really want to meet other women who are putting this knowledge into practice.

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About the Assessment

You're someone who wants to know yourself better. Our dateability assessment will show you how well you’re doing with physical self-care, emotional stability, communication, community, passion, confidence, financial fitness, and being a good human.

You Want to Meet Other Women Like You

You're standing by, waiting for us to open the dateable()af membership program so you can make some connections. Join our email list so you can get one of the first invitations!

You Want to Laugh, Learn, and Be Entertained

Listen and subscribe to our dateable()af Podcast. We're chatting about all things related to women dating women, plus interviewing some amazing guests.

Let Us Know What Kind of Support You Need

dateable()af was designed for women, by women. We want to create a community just for you. Please message us and let us know how we can help you make dating less brutal.